MOM Members Speak Out

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When was the first time one of your multiples was invited to an event (i.e. birthday party, etc) and the other(s) not invited? How did your family handle the situation?

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What was the best or most thoughtful thing someone did or said after your babies were born?

Women brought over pre-cooked meals that were frozen & labeled. There were many newborn days where this was the only thing I ate all day.
I met another MOM when I was pregnant with my twins who said "Call me if you need ANYTHING". I called her the first night we were home at 10pm & she ran to the store for me. She also called and left messages saying "You don't need to call me back, I just wanted you to know that I was thinking of you & your babies". What a blessing to have her call at "just the right time" & acknowledging that I likely didn't have the time/energy to call her back.
One friend who brought over dinner after the babies were born called my doctor to see if I could have alcohol....she brought over enchiladas & coronas! It was nice of her to check and very tasty (and needed)!

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How Many Weeks Gestation were your babies when they were born & any tips on Prenatal care/strategies.

37 Weeks - Drink LOTS of water when you are pregnant. I was told when I was pregnant that dehydration can start early labor. I was also told that each day in the womb was equal to 2 developmental days outside of the womb, so I was driven to go full term.

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"What holiday/event tradition(s) have you been able to start or hand down to your babies?"

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Valued "Tips & Tools" you have received about Parenting Multiples

Take pictures of each child separately during events so they have "their own" photos.

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In the Classroom: Separate Classrooms or Together Decision

50% of members responded that they will or do separate their multiples in respective classrooms
50% of members responded that they plan to or do keep their multiples in the same classroom

Submitted Comments:

"My one twin dominates over the other making all decisions; I plan to separate them when they go to school"

"My twins are only 11 months but i plan to have them separate - I have had my brother and sister & my cousins twin sons go through & watched this experience... in both cases & in talking with the school - the kids seem to do better making their own headway (once they get used to the separation anxiety). I figure they need to become their own person and find their own friends... they won't always be together in life."

"The boys are in 2nd grade and we decided to separate this year so they could have time apart & finally get separate identities. We never had a problem in school, but they fought a lot outside of the classroom. So, too much time together was the major factor. The first week has gone great; more frustrating for mom trying to keep homework straight and trying to remember which kid was with which teacher!"

"Since the boys aren't old enough to be in school, yet, I would have to say that I would like to have them separated. but that may change once they are in school. Even at this young age, they don't like to be separated from one another. but I would like them to each to be given the chance to grow as individuals and not just to be known as part of a pair."

"I think we will start our girls in the same classroom. If they adapt well socially and academically, then we will keep them in the same class. I think it will be good for them to be near each other. There is also the practical benefit of them having the same homework and working on the same topics."